Nobody in this world is an exception when it comes to jealousy. It is an universal problem. But it cannot be solved. One can only overcome it by understanding it thoroughly. So, let us try to understand it.
Why do we get jealous? Jealousy comes from comparision. We are taught to compare. We try to compare ourself with the whole world. Somebody has a beautiful house, somebody has a new model car, a good looking face. This comparision brings jealousy into us. Comparision is sheer stupidity. Existense makes everyone as a rare and unique entity. Nobody is inferior and nobody is superior. Every one is different so we can't compare. I wish Marx would've known it.
Jealousy in relationship is quite more complicated thing. We become jealous to those who we love. Actually, jealousy is a kind of measurement. Where the love is deeper there can be no jealousy and vice-versa. In relationship, jealousy and possesiveness comes togather. But what is the reason of jealousy ? It is fear. We fear that what is going to happen tommorow. We fear that tommorow this person is going to love us in the same way. We fear tommorow. But where there is tommorow there can be no love. Love is today or I should say love is right now. But this fear brings us jealousy and possesiveness. And these are poison for love.
So, Instead of fighting with jealousy one should try to light a candle of love. The light of this candle is capable enough to vanish all the darkness. Jealousy, possesiveness and fear are mere names of symptoms of disease. This disease is absense of love. We try to cure the symptoms and the actual disease is left uncured.
Once love starts flowing, it takes away all the dirty things. So, let the love flow and see the miracle.
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